Manners Monday: How to Gracefully Receive a Gift You Don’t Like

We’ve all received gifts at one time or another that we were less than thrilled about. Most of us know the polite thing to do after opening a gift in front of the giver is to smile and say thank you, regardless of how we truly feel inside about said present. Sometimes gift giving can get tricky though. As a practical person, I have a hard time keeping a gift that I know I’ll never use, even if I know the gift giver put thought, time and effort into selecting it. I think of the money that was spent and it always seems like such a waste to me instead of exchanging it for something that I’d actually use and enjoy. That probably sounds terrible, but I know I’m not alone. As someone who loathes clutter, to me it ends up being one more thing to store in a closet which is the opposite of how I like to keep my home.

On the flip aspect, once I purchase items for my husband or own family contributors, I constantly need to check in and ensure they prefer it and allow them to recognise if it’s not of their taste or they do not feel they will use it, that I may not be angry in the event that they do need to exchange it or maybe get a reimbursement and use the money closer to something they may in truth appreciate. Over the years, I’ve never without a doubt had too many present ‘returns’, simply the unusual garb object right here or there for my husband that failed to healthy nicely.

Recently, I created a few customized image items and had so much fun choosing which pix I’d use and the way I’d lay the pics out. When I was carried out and ordered the items, I had a smile on my face considering how the recipient might be happy to get hold of them, in any case, they have been home made presents for terribly close circle of relatives who appreciates sentimental pictures and something with a creative touch. Well, you may imagine my wonder then, after I observed out they didn’t appreciate considered one of them nearly as an awful lot as I idea they could. This character (a male) is sensible just like I am, and didn’t need to peer an object with the nice intentions being shoved to the lower back of a closet (and in reality discovered this is in which it’d grow to be!). It turns out after a few latest domestic adorning (which I wasn’t aware about beforehand), one of the two items no longer matched their decor.

This got me considering items and how we select to provide and acquire them. Personalized gifts are continually considerate but can every now and then prove to be a project. Once some thing is monogrammed or custom published, it’s set in stone. As a present giver, we should be certain it’s some thing with a view to be nicely obtained. Likewise, other nicely that means presents which includes custom earrings and handmade objects, suit the identical invoice. For that cause, it is regularly first-rate to give a present this is less personalized and precise (however now not quite as frequent as a gift card-except it is requested) and may be again or exchanged if essential. I felt torn between the practicality facet and my feelings. In the give up, I needed to honor the present recipients desires and in our particular case we had been really able to go back one of the gadgets (the opposite changed into stored) and now I can offer something with a view to be better suitable to them. It’s these forms of sticky situations that I do my great to decode for you and give you tips on for your personal scenarios, however that really doesn’t imply I’m exempt from them as you may see! 😉

How to Gracefully Accept a Gift You Dislike

1. Smile- No matter how much you want to cringe, smile instead. Now is not the time to make a disgusted, confused face or look overly surprised. In any situation, a genuine smile puts others at ease. While you may not love the gift, chances are you do love (or at least like) the person who gave it to you. Think about what their friendship means to you and it won’t be hard to do so. If you need to, tell yourself it’s secretly a gag gift and they’re testing to see how you respond.

2. Thank the Giver-  Whether the gift giver knocked it out of the park or their choice was a total miss, a thank you is always appropriate when someone gives us a gift, regardless of value or our personal preference for it. Someone took the time, effort and may have spent money to present something they believed you’d appreciate. Whether you are opening up a gift in front of the giver or not, always be sure to follow to follow up with a hand written note as it is proper gift etiquette. You can read this previous post on how to write the perfect thank you note.

3. Compliment the Sentiment- Even when we are confused about a gift giver’s choices, know that their intentions were good. Be sure to notice something positive that can be said about the actual item(s) as it’s the thought that counts. For the ugliest pair of socks: “You are so thoughtful, you remembered how my feet always get so cold in the winter” or for a horrific scent of perfume: “Thank you so much for thinking of me and look at how pretty this perfume bottle is (if it in fact is).

4. Hint at What You’d Like in the Future- If you received a gift from someone who is notorious for giving strange gifts or from someone whom you’ll likely receive more gifts from in the future (ie: your finance, mother-in-law or a new friend), provide some guidance in a gentle way by sharing what you prefer. Even though you might feel they should know you already based on what you wear, what’s in your home and are aware of your interests, some people still need you to spell it out. It is important not to do it in an obvious way that makes them feel that you don’t appreciate the gift in front of you. After finding something positive and thanking them, state something such as “Have you had a chance to smell the new Tory Burch perfume yet? It’s heavenly!” Hopefully they’ll ask for a name! If you don’t typically wear socks such as our example above, say: “I rarely wear socks, mine just sit in the drawer but these will make my workout outfit extra funky”. That way you are still being kind but subtly letting them know you don’t prefer to receive socks and why.

5. What to Do With the Gift- After receiving the gift itself, you should never feel obligated to keep it. Personally, I don’t like to contribute to the landfill unnecessarily and I know my discarded items will be someone else’s treasure so I will typically donate what I absolutely do not like and can’t think of anyone that would either. Many times I’ll keep an item for a short time (depending on who it is from such as my Grandma) such as a pretty, lidded candle that just doesn’t have a scent I like, and then will eventually give it away. If you read my post on re-gifting etiquette, you know that I do re-gift from time to time, although it’s very rare and it must be well-suited to the new recipient, not a reason to just save some a few dollars as it can come across as being cheap. If you choose to go that route, be absolutely sure the item will be given to someone who does not know the original giver-this is critical! Try attaching a piece of painter’s tape on the bottom and write the same of the giver in case it’s being stored in a closet so you don’t forget. I once received a small gift back from the person I gave it to a few years later and the same person gave my daughter an obvious re-gift that was not in new condition for Christmas which was both uncomfortable and annoying to me, I would have preferred no gift at all and it got tossed. I just can’t help but think of this person differently now (a gift needs to be in its original packaging and should be in new condition).


Since my blog is designed for ladies and the majority of gifts we purchase are for different women (our mom, sister, daughter, aunt, first-rate pal, co-worker, and so forth.) I notion I’d percentage a few of the conventional objects I like to gift others which are continually properly received and also are presents I’d revel in myself or already very own and love. When giving a present, it is always smart to invite for a present receipt to enclose with the gift in case it does want to be back or exchanged and it will keep away from that awkward moment of something asking you for the receipt and explaining why it failed to work out for them.

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I’d love to hear your stories….have you ever received a gift that you couldn’t possibly imagine why it was gifted to you? Have you also found yourself giving a gift that later you came to find out was not appreciated? How did you respond? I’d love to know in the comments below!

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